Whimsical Endeavors

sketchlynx:

mister-sunny:

people are boycotting the Kraft commercials for the “Zesty” salad topping because it features a topless man in compromising situations.

people are boycotting it because it sexualizes a man. 

people are boycotting a commercial that features one of the oldest marketing strategies because this time it’s a man being exploited. 

(via sinistergauche)

supernovaqirl:

anything over $10 is expensive

(via schastlivyye-sny)

nickelflowers:

“It’s taboo to admit that you’re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven’t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you’re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are. A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn’t transition well to adult life, that you’d fall right through the cracks. And look at you now. La di da, it’s happening. Your mother, your father, your grandparents: they all look at you like you’re some prized jewel and they tell you over and over again just how lucky you are to be young and have your whole life ahead of you. “Getting old ain’t for sissies,” your father tells you wearily. You wish they’d stop saying these things to you because all it does is fill you with guilt and panic. All it does is remind you of how much you’re not taking advantage of your youth. You want to kiss all kinds of different people, you want to wake up in a stranger’s bed maybe once or twice just to see if it feels good to feel nothing, you want to have a group of friends that feels like a tribe, a bonafide family. You want to go from one place to the next constantly and have your weekends feel like one long epic day. You want to dance to stupid music in your stupid room and have a nice job that doesn’t get in the way of living your life too much. You want to be less scared, less anxious, and more willing. Because if you’re closed off now, you can only imagine what you’ll be like later. Every day you vow to change some aspect of your life and every day you fail. At this point, you’re starting to question your own power as a human being. As of right now, your fears have you beat. They’re the ones that are holding your twenties hostage. Stop thinking that everyone is having more sex than you, that everyone has more friends than you, that everyone out is having more fun than you. Not because it’s not true (it might be!) but because that kind of thinking leaves you frozen. You’ve already spent enough time feeling like you’re stuck, like you’re watching your life fall through you like a fast dissolve and you’re unable to hold on to anything. I don’t know if you ever get better. I don’t know if a person can just wake up one day and decide to be an active participant in their life. I’d like to think so. I’d like to think that people get better each and every day but that’s not really true. People get worse and it’s their stories that end up getting forgotten because we can’t stand an unhappy ending. The sick have to get better. Our normalcy depends upon it. You have to value yourself. You have to want great things for your life. This sort of shit doesn’t happen overnight but it can and will happen if you want it. Do you want it bad enough? Does the fear of being filled with regret in your thirties trump your fear of living today? We shall see.”

—

You’re Not Making The Most Of Your 20s, Ryan O’Connell

(via genioussteals)

stokerbramwell:

her-master:

I think relatively little has been written or said about aftercare in the BDSM world. You can find thousands of articles that will tell you where and how to hit someone with a cane, but many fewer that tell you what to do to her afterward. Part of this is common sense. No thoughtful lover fucks and runs in the vanilla world. Everything can be more intense in BDSM, so a little extra thought should be devoted to what happens after.

I’ll address most of these brief comments to Doms, but subs, you should remember that your Dom may need care too. While I believe it is His responsibility to take care of you, a session can be very draining and leave a Dom feeling very empty afterward too. Try to maintain the intimacy, avoid off topic conversation and critical remarks, and just be there for Him. In a BDSM experience, a Dom often feels a level of mastery and control akin to being a Greek god. Coming back to earth can be difficult and more than a little painful.

Doms, you should realize that not every experience with your sub will be mindblowing, but, when it is, her mind will really be blown. Sub drop is a topic for another day, and maybe one I’m not particularly qualified to write on, is basically a natural counterpart to the tremendous high of a BDSM experience. It can happen for many reasons, and it doesn’t always happen. Aftercare is designed to help with sub drop, but it does much more and is needed even where there is no sub drop. It is part of a relationship and part of forging that connection between you and your sub. There are many ways to do this, and, as long as you’re paying attention to her needs and her reactions, it’s hard to go wrong. A skilled Dom will be able to handle aftercare covering the full range of experiences—from a quicky in a public place to a scene that’s so intense it’s triggering. Adapt and pay attention. Though there’s nothing set in stone, here are some ideas I’ve found useful:

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This is good advice for D/s play no matter what the gender(s) of the people involved.  Aftercare really doesn’t get the attention it deserves.  Which is strange to me, as I personally enjoy it as much as every other part of play.

As a straight female Dom I can agree that this can equally be something we need to look out for in male subs as well. Just because they’re male doesn’t make them any less prone to the aftermath. And as he stated, doms need care sometimes too. BDSM is all about the connection we have together as dom and sub, not just the power over someone’s will.